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24 October 2007 @ 11:24 pm
After making the post about spending time together with my husband, I stepped back and realized that maybe I was being a little lazy in getting Holling to bed.... or just on a more normal schedule.

The past 3 nights I have gotten him in bed before 10 . . . 7:30 today. I wonder if it helps though, that its getting dark earlier now.

Well anyhow, Mike and I have been spending much time together.

We've also been trying, as hard as we can, to follow the Policy of Joint Agreement.

I can't think of any examples at the moment to share with you.

But lets talk about this article
(Mike actually read this one, and when he was done he said "this sounds like a great idea, why don't you go ahead and make the list....)
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21 October 2007 @ 12:42 pm
I've been reading a lot of articles from this website http://www.marriagebuilders.com/index.html Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr. Author of His Needs Her needs. So far I have been VERY happy with everything I've read. His major advice is to follow this rule, which he calls the Policy of Joint Agreement.

Never do anything without an enthusiastic agreement between you and your spouse.

At first, I thought that it sounded very extreme. How could two people possibly be in "enthusiastic agreement" on every issue?! The more I think about it though, the more brilliant it seems.

For example . . . Tuesday when my husband came home I was very excited to move a full size bed from his parents house over to ours. I demanded that it must be done NOW! (Because I KNEW my husband will NEVER decided to do it on his own) So the whole time we were moving this bed he was huffing and puffing and I was getting upset that he wasn't as excited about our new bed situation as I was.

If we had enacted the Policy of Joint Agreement, I would have calmly waited until he was Enthusiastic about the change. Which probably would have been only a couple hours, or maybe days. Or maybe we would have had a discussion about why he didn't think we really needed to do it....

What do you think about the Policy of Joint Agreement?
21 October 2007 @ 01:21 am
I've created this community specially for married folks who are looking for advice and support in their marriage with sensitivity to their attachment parenting styles.

Please come post your comments, concerns, links, and advice!

Please be respectful of others choices, and situations. Take what works for your family and kindly leave the rest.